So it turns out the easiest way was just to ask Him. I trust Him, I love Him, and I can only show that by being completely honest with Him. If I sat on my feelings for too long, then in a way I would have been deceitful by keeping my blog and my thoughts from him.
How could I ask him to by my Dom if I am not ready to submit. By submit I mean to lay my soul bare, and be honest.
So He said... That sounds like fun. LOL... I was not sure what I expected him to say. But I should have trusted in him to be ok with it.
He read my blog and agreed with how I summed up our life so far. That was good to hear, it means I was not the only one along for the ride, and we were experiencing this together.
So now what? I asked him to think about what he wants from this new arrangement. I guess I wait.
I explained that I find it easier to write this stuff down than to verbalize it. He agreed that he does sometimes too. So I am going to use this as a way of expressing what I can't say.
Topping from the bottom has always scared me. I think this fear contributed to us not communicating well the first time around. I still don't have the crux of it yet.
Slow and steady. Getting back into the mindset will take time for both of us.
I am really glad I took the plunge and asked him.... But I might want to change that answer after the first time I get my butt spanked!
Welcome to Blogland, Linda.
ReplyDeleteIsn't it amazing, the things that can come from asking one little question?
Thanks lil. Its a work in progress. But we are on the way up! (well He is anyway!) LOL
ReplyDeleteThanks lil. Its a work in progress. But we are on the way up! (well He is anyway!) LOL
ReplyDeleteTo echo lil, welcome to blogland
ReplyDeleteWith regards to topping from the bottom, i think perhaps that is inevitable at times and happens to all of us, its just a matter of finding ones boundries i think.
looking forward to hearing more as you both go forward together.
Thanks Tori, I still struggle with it all, but I think we will get through it, we know each other so much better this time around. He still surprises me though!
ReplyDeleteJust made it here and getting caught up. Sounds like you are both off to a good start...this submission is not always easy, but very worth it. I often worried about topping from the bottom, when one day Master told me....telling me what you would like, what you think went wrong, new ideas you have is not topping from the bottom, it is giving me information that will help us to be the best we can be. He can choose what to do with the information.
ReplyDeleteGood luck on your journey!
hugs abby
Just made it here and getting caught up. Sounds like you are both off to a good start...this submission is not always easy, but very worth it. I often worried about topping from the bottom, when one day Master told me....telling me what you would like, what you think went wrong, new ideas you have is not topping from the bottom, it is giving me information that will help us to be the best we can be. He can choose what to do with the information.
ReplyDeleteGood luck on your journey!
hugs abby
Thanks Abby, its slow going, I still havent really talked it through with him yet. He has told me he wants to give it a go. Life is really getting in the way, but we will get past these hurdles and work at it.
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