Wednesday, 29 July 2015

Slow boil... But missing posting

Life is always bringing us knew challenges, this last few weeks have been very busy, with a few emotional ups and downs. Without going into it too much, my hubby is feeling a little bit fragile, so I haven't been a pushy brat like I want to.

So I found these on PK's page and thought to put my own answers to them. Thanks PK!

Take a look at your walls at home. Which picture/object is your favorite and why? Bonus points if you post a picture.

This pic hangs on our bedroom wall, I love it for a few reasons, 1st, it has a black unicorn in it, and well I love putting a spin on the traditional, and 2nd it is just too raunchy with quite a bit of side boob showing, so it can't just go in the main rooms of the house. Which I kind of like, cause that means it is just for us. Sorry about the quality pic, its dark and our room doesn't have good lighting. 

What is/are your favorite perfume(s)?

I just tend to wear deodorant, but I have a huge range of perfume, I do like, but use it sparingly, as Hubby is not a big fan. 

How many pairs of shoes do you own? Have you ever hidden new shoes from your spouse?

Heeps, most of them in disrepair, or one is missing. I know I should throw them out... But what if I find the other one? Never hidden any purchase from him. 

Snacks - Sweet, Salty, or Both?  If you could choose 1 snack, and it magically had no calories, what would it be?

I like both, but if I could choose one, it would definitely be chocolate. 

What are your favorite cut flowers?

Red roses... I'm a hopeless romantic! When Hubby and I first met, one of our first dates he bought me 11 red roses, still with the thorns, he said only 11 because I was the 12th..  And the thorns were to remind me that he can bite when he wants too!  (where is that man... I need to see if he is hiding somewhere inside my current husband) 

Without using a real name, describe one person in your life with whom you have a hard time being patient.

My Mother in law. I know she is coming from a loving place, but sometimes I am grinding my teeth behind that smile. 

What food do you love that your spouse hates?  What food does your spouse love that is "yecch" to you?

Hubby hates anything that is vegetable, except potato, to which he says is an honorary meat! I love my vegies. He loves beef jerky... I just cant come at the stuff. 

What is a song you associate with meeting your honey?

My sacrifice by Creed. When we first met, it was popular, and we both loved it. It also summed up how we felt about each other and our special D/s bond. 

Do you have a favorite movie that you like to watch every few months or once a year?

Rocky Horror Picture show! I love that movie, it was a real eye opener when I was young, and it was one of the things that we both talked about when we met. I have the music on my phone and know all the songs. I love the classics too like grease and dirty dancing. I guess I'm just a sucker for musicals!

What collection(s) do you have?  How did your collection start?  (Add a picture if you like.)

Board games. We are really building momentum with them now, its a fairly new habit, but we seem to be buying one or two every month or so. 

Where would you like to go on your next vacation?  Is there somewhere else on your Bucket List?

Without question, We would love to visit Iceland and Finland. So many reasons, but this picture sums it up nicely. 

If you could only buy clothes at one store, at what store would you shop?

I really am not a fashionista. I love a bargain though, so as long as I would be getting value for money and nice comfortable clothes, I would be ok. 

What gift(s) from your spouse have been the most loved and appreciated?

For my 40th birthday, he got me 2 expansions of my favorite board game Dominion. It doesn't sound romantic, but it really was thoughtful, especially as he is not a big fan of the game, and knew he would have to play it with me. 

Name one item of your spouse's clothing that you would love to throw away.

He has recently lost a lot of weight, and has some very baggy cargo pants. But because he hates shopping, its very hard to replace them.

What is the submissive action (or inaction) of which you are most proud?

This is a hard one to answer, I cant say I am proud of anything really, as we are starting over and it has been many years since we really stepped back into these roles, I would have to say, lately, it would be accepting the pain, and taking it as far as he wanted to go, trusting that he would not go to far, and would know my limits better than I do. 

I would love to read your answers too! 

Tuesday, 14 July 2015

And... We're back!

Im grinning as I write this. Finally Hubby has come around to the D/s lifestyle that brought us together in the first place. A few nights back, whilst lying in bed, he said, lets clean out the toy box!


As expected, there were a few toys that got thrown out, that had old batteries in them, or just were starting to loose their integrity. None of the floggers, whips or paddles were broken tho. He had to check each one out just to be sure. (on my backside)

Then I got to choose what I wanted to play with!  I chose the soft leather flogger (I know Im a wimp) and the soft cuffs. He chose the leather paddle also, cause he said, I was wimping out... (which I totally was)

We both loved it!

This was a few days back, I work as a carer, and am away from home 7 nights in a fortnight, so we haven't found more time to play again, but I know we will.

He found a shackle that he had made years ago, in the box that was not finished, Its wooden, and clips together to hold my wrists, like mobile stocks.  It wasn't finished, he wanted to line it with leather and re stain it.

I noticed the other day he has started on this. This is a very good sign. It means he wants this as much as i do.

I really was worried, I was pushing something on him he no longer wanted. But I am glad to be pleasantly surprised by his enthusiasm. When I say enthusiasm, its still a slow boil, but it is his way. He always likes to stop and consider his next move. This is frustrating for me, I sometimes seesaw with decisions, but usually those are not important things, more like what to order on the menu. Something important is decided quickly and steadfastly.

I am pleased we are moving forward, albeit at his pace. I know I have to submit to his way, that's the whole point isn't it!

Monday, 6 July 2015

Red and warm and HEAVENLY!

I have had things rummaging through my head the last week or so. Sitting around healing has giving me plenty of time to think... I think I am an over thinker. (Im rolling my eyes at myself)

I think my hubby has finally got his kink back on. I am trying really hard not to harass him with my constant thoughts about it. I guess I am trying (and sometimes failing) to give him an opportunity to want it again, and not just because I want it.

We have had some interesting nights in the bedroom, the first time in a long time he has spanked me with any real force leaving a mark. Plenty of times he would smack my backside, but not really hard, and it was only once or twice. This time, he made it red and warm... AND HEAVENLY!!!

He was so cute after, all about the after care, concerned he had gone to far too soon... I'm thinking, YAY we are finally getting there. He was also concerned about my wound areas and play was a little restrictive.

We visited friends for dinner last night, and in the car on the way, out of the blue he started talking about rekindling his old BDSM friends and maybe going to munches again.

I know he is thinking about it, and we are getting there.

A Blogger that I follow (stalk) is PK, she has written a most fantastic and to the point letter to her husband, explaining how she feels and how she needs his help. I was floored as I read it, I was thinking, does she have a peephole into my life? She really could have written it for me to my husband, almost the entire thing is relevant, only a few points are different.
I say she could have written it for me, and not I could have written it, because I am no where near that good at getting what I need to say, across. Thankfully, PK has graciously said I can take some of her ideas and use them in my own letter.
You can read her letter here at

Now I just have to pluck up the courage to put down my points, and give it to him, and open my own set of worms.