Tuesday 14 July 2015

And... We're back!

Im grinning as I write this. Finally Hubby has come around to the D/s lifestyle that brought us together in the first place. A few nights back, whilst lying in bed, he said, lets clean out the toy box!

OH MY!

As expected, there were a few toys that got thrown out, that had old batteries in them, or just were starting to loose their integrity. None of the floggers, whips or paddles were broken tho. He had to check each one out just to be sure. (on my backside)

Then I got to choose what I wanted to play with!  I chose the soft leather flogger (I know Im a wimp) and the soft cuffs. He chose the leather paddle also, cause he said, I was wimping out... (which I totally was)

We both loved it!

This was a few days back, I work as a carer, and am away from home 7 nights in a fortnight, so we haven't found more time to play again, but I know we will.

He found a shackle that he had made years ago, in the box that was not finished, Its wooden, and clips together to hold my wrists, like mobile stocks.  It wasn't finished, he wanted to line it with leather and re stain it.

I noticed the other day he has started on this. This is a very good sign. It means he wants this as much as i do.

I really was worried, I was pushing something on him he no longer wanted. But I am glad to be pleasantly surprised by his enthusiasm. When I say enthusiasm, its still a slow boil, but it is his way. He always likes to stop and consider his next move. This is frustrating for me, I sometimes seesaw with decisions, but usually those are not important things, more like what to order on the menu. Something important is decided quickly and steadfastly.

I am pleased we are moving forward, albeit at his pace. I know I have to submit to his way, that's the whole point isn't it!

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  1. I wonder if they have any idea what it does to us to see them taking such an active part in TTWD. Making new toys, trying out old ones to see if they still 'work'. I very happy for you both.

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    1. Thanks PK. It really was so good to see him involved again.

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  2. I saw your blog listed on PK's blog list and went back to your first post. You have made progress fairly quickly since you work several nights, had to host a dinner party, have been ill and then had surgery! He sounds like he is getting excited now that you have tried out a few old favorites. We wives seem to be the ones who want more attention, spankings, rules and being cared for. I would let him set the pace for the next month without too much reminding. If it's not enough after that time, have another discussion. He shouldn't feel too pressured that way. Good luck!!

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    1. Thanks Kate! I think you are spot on. I do plan on writing him a letter regarding what I need but i am going to take your advice and let him set the pace. It will help to gel in my mind what works for us and what really is pure fantasy. So i don't go asking for something that is just not feasible for our dynamic.

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  3. This is lovely news, im happy for you both, i tend to look at it that sometimes its like going 5 steps forward and 3 back, but nevertheless its still forward.

    x

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    1. Thanks Tori its great to be at this point again. I really think that I can be a much better submissive now. I have more patience for one thing!

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  4. What a wonderful post to start my morning with....when I get a choice, I just about always say....leather flogger...heavenly!
    hugs abby

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    1. Thanks abby. I really loved it. That thud... Knowing he can really lay into it without giving too much pain.

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  5. I'm in much more of a hurry than he is, but it is better to take it slow.

    So happy for you!

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  6. Thanks Misty. Frustrating, but ok. I know I will appreciate one day, when everything is in full swing, that we took it slow and enjoyed ourselves.

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  7. Hi Linda, I am with Tori it always feels like 2 steps forward 3 back. At least he is getting back into the swing of things. We need to be patient in waiting for our men to feel its the right time I guess. Enjoy the journey.
    Lindy x

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